And last week I was, like many Scottish dads, left with the kids for their half-term break.
We were away in Pittenweem for five nights with no gym and, crucially, no other half to tend the weans while I pushed off for a walk or jog. It can’t be easy being a lone parent and trying to stay fit.
I had, fleetingly, thought about taking the rowing machine with me so I could keep my fitness ticking over. On the plus side it could mean I could set up the rower in the cottage where we were staying while keeping half an eye on the kids.
On the minus side the machine is pretty damned big and taking it on holiday in a car already packed wi’ kids and all their gubbins would have just been, let’s face it, tragic.
In the end the machine stayed in the bedroom, but only after I squeezed out a half marathon in the hours before we left for our wee break, and the three of us had a whale of a time doing not very much at all except for looking at boats, beaches and the Winter Olympics.
I elected not to keep the diet while we were away in the East Neuk but instead splurged on the magnificent fare from the Pittenweem Fish and Chip Bar which is, by my reckoning, head and shoulders above other, better known chippies nearby. The fish is worth a trip to Pittenweem itself.
Not content with my fish supper, and the sausages the kids left behind, I decided to indulge in a two-scoop tub of dairy heaven from the famous Jannetta’s of St Andrews.
If you ever have the chance to visit either of them, so long as you are not trying to lose five stone in 12 months, you should really give both a (rapsberry) whirl.
And now it’s back to reality with a thud. As well the grim task of uploading photos of all the other rubbish I’ve been eating (I should point out that I don’t consider the food in either of the photos above as rubbish) – into our Flickr stream I’ve also been back in the gym the last three days trying to mix up my routine with much more work on the resistance machines, which my body really is not thanking me for at all.
But now as I contemplate another week I’m looking forward to getting back into the swing of early 10k sessions on the rowing machine before work as often as I can face, coupled with trips to Lochend on Monday and Wednesday for more circuit training.
I keep coming back to a phrase I heard at the tail end of last year.
I didn’t get on the scales at the weekend because I didn’t need bad news.
I know that I have undone my good work of the last few days/weeks because I can feel it in my body; I don’t need the scales to tell me.
After a strong week of workouts and watching my intake it all fell apart, as it often does, at the weekend.
There are lots of excuses. A very dear old pal was down on Friday night and we had steak n chips n all sorts.
On Saturday after a fry up, and hungover, I at least managed to get myself down to Lochend for a spot of circuit training; it was not a very pleasant experience.
The mistake I made then was too much vino on both Saturday and Sunday as I took in the rest of the opening weekend of the Six Nations rugby.
Despite a 10k on the rower on Sunday and a nice evening walk through the city centre – the first I have done in far far too long – I simply can’t be doing the week on / weekends off routine if I am going to succeed.
It’s Tuesday today and I’ve already started the week well with another visit to Lochend and yet another 10k on trhe Concept 2.
Time to start ending the weeks as well as I begin them.
There’s one of those fridge magnet/Facebook update homilies, you know the type, that reads:
Work like you don’t need the money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like no-one’s watching.
Sing like no-one’s listening.
Live like there’s no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
..which is all very nice and laudable (if slightly fey), but it’s easier said than done.
I’ll confess to a certain amount of envy of those folk who, either through lack of self-awareness or an overabundance of confidence, feel able to just plough on in life, come hell or high water and no matter what folk think. We all know someone like that.
But I guess most people are self-conscious about at least part of their own appearance, habits or behaviour.
One of the things about going to the gym a bit more regularly again is quite simply crossing paths with a whole new and completely disparate group of human beings who I don’t know, am not likely to get to know and with whom I have nothing in common except for a desire to get fit.
Not only are these people complete strangers, but they’re strangers who mostly don’t have very many clothes on, looking slightly silly as they do whatever they do. Being self-conscious is to be expected.
When I was at my heaviest, when my belly overhung my belt line even more than it does at present, I was very deeply aware of the shambling figure I cut.
And while it may sound strange to anyone reading what is a warts-and-all diary open to all the world, it’s true that I would avoid gym mirrors and the eyes of others in changing rooms.
I really shouldn’t have bothered my arse about that keech.
Even just a few weeks into 2014 I am feeling a lot better about my progress, despite the very slow weight loss.
And a lot of that is down to remembering that I’m doing this for myself, not for the person on the next treadmill along.
Why should what they do, whether it be the utterly pointless three minute limp-wristed bimbling rowing session of a bored housewife or the ostentatious grunting of a who-you-looking-at weightlifter, bother me at all?
We are all in there, with our own goals and ways of getting there. Or not. I can no more help the person next to me than they can me. It has to come from within.
Self-consciousness should have no place in gyms. No matter who you are, how bent out of shape you are, there is always someone in worse nick…and they deserve their place too.
There are a couple of folk on the three gyms I have been using of late who outdo me on the flabbiness scales. I have nothing but respect for anyone who is attempting to take their life back, no matter how ‘far gone’ they are.
At the other extreme of the spectrum there is this girl.
She is really quite hard to describe, but if you go to the gym I go to, you’ll know who I mean.
I’ve only ever seen her from the back or the side because the cross-trainer I use (yes I have a favourite one, so what) is behind the row of treadmills she uses.
With that in mind then I would have to hazard a guess and say she is her late 20s or early 30s and in pretty good shape.
All I can say about the way she moves on a treadmill is that it is entirely unlike anything I have ever seen before.
You could call it dancing, cavorting, even frolicking, but what it really isn’t is jogging. You have to see it to believe it.
The best way I can describe her range of movement is like a female version of the main dancer in the Fatboy Slim video for Praise You…except on a fast-moving treadmill.
I sometimes wonder what she must be thinking of, of whether she is in a dwam and freeforming it every day, or whether she has actually devised or learned this programme of ridiculous movements (and if so how she remembers them).
Doubtless some folk will think “who the hell does she think she is, having fun like that, she looks like a fool” but I really don’t think she cares.
I’ve only seen her a couple of times and she looks pretty happy to me, she really is dancing like nobody is watching.
It’s nobody’s fault but my own. Pride before a fall and all that.
This week had been great. I did some proper good work in the gyms in Glasgow and Edinburgh, lots of metres on the rowing machine in the house and even two visits to Lochend boxing club. I ate well, and was feeling pretty good about myself.
It felt like a four or five pound weight loss week.
Then came the same mistake I make every time I try to lose weight … I jumped on a different set of scales the day before my weekly weigh-in, just to see what they’d say.
That was yesterday and the scales I flirted with were the ones in the Edinburgh gym I use, the professional looking Salter brand ones next to the lockers.
The figure I saw on the dial nearly made my eyes pop out my head.
I jumped on and off the scales three times just to be sure.
I got the same reading three times.
17 stone 13lb.
Now I concede that for a lot of people that would be a disgusting weight, a horrible figure, but for me it would mark a loss of a stone in less than a month.
It made my day.
That was Friday. Less than 24 hours ago.
Like the fool I am I was pretty sure the reading on my own scales would be repeated, or perhaps even improved upon, when I stepped on my the Nintendo wii scales this morning.
18 stone 8lb.
I was gutted, still am if truth be told. The difference between the scales was half a stone, more in fact.
Putting to the side the fact the scales in the gym are telling folk they’re half a stone lighter than they are (who would have thunk eh?) this is my own fault and it was a truly daft mistake to make.
All scales are different, everybody knows that. It’s a slimming rule that when you start out, you pick one set of scales and, for better or worse, thick or thin, you damn well stick with them all the way through.
It doesn’t really matter if they’re wrong as long as they are consistent. Very much like a marriage in many respects.
So here I am mourning the half a stone I never lost. It has put a downer on my weekend and overshadowed the fact I, in my self pity, nearly missed today, that I am still losing the beef.
On the positive side I can feel the real changes in my body form and I am enjoying the gym work.
It has to be said I was hoping for a higher rate of return than I am getting so far. For the life of me I can’t quite equate my massive calorie burn and modest food intake with a weight lass rate of 1-2lb a week, I reckon it should be 3-4lb at least, but it is what it is. The scales tell their own story.
So the task this week is to redouble my efforts, to keep plugging away, to chalk off the rowing metres, to mix it all up with more weights routines….and to watch what I eat.
This week has been a reality check I probably needed.
We’re only a few weeks into 2014 and while neither of us have set the heather on fire with mad crazy weight loss I, for one, think we’re starting this year right way. Not too fast, not too slow.
A quick look back over my workout stats and my food diary is showing me that a bit of application and (mostly) healthy diet can make the world of difference.
The rowing machine has been my chosen instrument of torture of late, and I’ve been grinding out the metres pretty well.
So much so that I had my first positive comment of the year from the unlikeliest of sources, my seven-year-old daughter, who asked: “”daddy, are you losing weight? Your tummy feels less floppy” the other day. It set me up for the day.
And already the scales are heading in the right direction too.
I’ve been going through some old photos. It started with online images snatched here and there of Iain and myself over the past three years, casting the memory back to the things we have done and the people we have met, the places we’ve been.
Each, it has to be said, has drawn a smile. From the night on the Ox where we told the globe how we’d conquer all, to the top of Ben Nevis where it seemed we could see the world. Sodden and exhausted cycling around Harris, sun baked and elated fishing in the sea.
ROCK STARS: Shaun Milne and Iain Pope conquer Ben Nevis for Two Fat Laddies
It’s been some journey, aye. The last chapter has become a bit, well, muddled. I put that down to a fatigue in ourselves. But here we are, still standing, a new wind in our lungs and stoked fire in our substantial bellies. Who knows where we will go from here.
It’s a question the blokes I know really not to discuss openly.
Because, let’s face it, men talking about men’s bodies is kinda, well, gay.
But I’m sure we’d all like to change something about ourselves if we could, and both of us have fairly publicly embarked (yet again) upon a quest which will change our bodies.
For me the weight loss thing is more and more about health, staying alive for myself and my family, but i’m not going to lie – I’d like to be in shape, proper shape, for the first time in years.
But what shape?
Mo Farah (credit: PA)
Daniel Craig as James Bond
The All Blacks performing the Haka
Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr in From Here to Eternity (credit Columbia Pictures)
The Village People
I created this gallery of the male form based on a quick internet trawl of images based on memories, on the way my culture has formed me.
There are some here with physical qualities most men would aspire to – physical strength, muscle definition, natural good looks, others I’ve chucked in to provoke a wee bit of thought.
Now neither Shaun nor I are ever going to trouble Daniel Craig for his 007 role, and Mo Farah need not worry about us passing him on the final corner any time soon, but we can still aspire to change ourselves.
And we can elect to change specific things about ourselves along the way.
I don’t want to be a bodybuilder with massive guns, ever.
And I doubt very much if I will ever have the form of a long distance athlete.
But If when I am five stone lighter by this time next time year I’ll be able to look down and hopefully not just see my……toes, but also a trim stomach. Maybe not washboard, but with some tone.
I’m into the rowing machine at the moment and we’re going to be going back to Lochend Amateur Boxing Club soon for circuit training sessions so I’d hope also for some upper body tone.
We may never be Burt Lancaster, Paul Newman or Richard Burton, but we’ll be in better nick than we are now.
I’ve been full of a bloody annoying cold that’s been doing the rounds in Edinburgh of late so decided not to spread my lurgy in the office and took a sick day today.
But, cold aside, 2014 has started well for both of us. I’ve managed to the gym three times so far (the first session pointless but needed psychologically, the other two more respectable) and, judging by his last blog, Shaun is right up for the cup n’all.
And my missus offered me a bit of a surprise incentive when she said that, if I lose five stones in 2014, she might think of making this year’s Christmas present a proper Crombie coat from the 2105 January sales.
Having looked at the price o them I have to admit that is a very very generous offer.
But I’m not sure I need that as an incentive. The wish to lose the weight is within me. I know I can make the change, as I think I always have done.
I saw an advert the other night for a service where people bring diet food to your house every day. Now, I’m sure that might work for some people, but it doesn’t float my boat.
This year is about making choices and sticking by outcomes, accountability.
We made a promise three years ago upon which neither of us has yet delivered. People pledged money to our charities based upon our promise.
Other news on the Two Fat Laddie front is that my brother-in-law’s colleague, a qualified rugby coach, has offered to help us out with a bit of conditioning advice geared at weight loss. I am dead keen to take him up on it soon as we can, and will need to speak to Shaun to sort out diaries.
The rest of this afternoon has been spent tidying up the site and making sure that the links you can see on the banner at the top of this page just underneath the photo of the pair of us actually make sense and link through to relevant spreadsheets where we are diarising our exercise and our weight.
I’ll be honest, keeping a full food diary might be a stretch in terms of the time it takes to fill in, but I am still taking photos of all the food I eat and posting it to our Flickr photostream (the tab marked ‘photos’ above) rather than writing it down, so that record is there too.
And I am going to bite the bullet and step on the scales tonight and input that into our weight tracker as my first entry of 2014. I’ll poke Shaun in the ribs (if I can find them) to make sure he does the same.
The next few days is about getting my bearings, continuing to eat well and train progressively harder and harder before thinking about the nuts and bolts of how I am actually going to convert positive vibes into concrete weight loss action in terms of diets, workout goals or scheduling challenges or yardsticks along the route in 2014.
So, if you have any advice, wisdom, chidings or exhortations to impart, we are still both all ears.